I wasn’t sure if I should post this at all or not, but I’ve written it now, and it’s been something that I’ve wanted to get off my chest, so here we are…
There is a band I’ve been listening too lately called Twenty One Pilots. They have a song called “At The Risk Of Feeling Dumb”, and as a ‘lyrics are life’ participator, there are a few lines in this song that I can relate to:
“Check on your friends, Every once in a while..”
– This is so very true, check in sometimes. See how each other is doing… It shows you care, care enough to actually take the time, or go out of your way to take the time to ask. This is basic friendship stuff right? This is what friendship is to people? People taking the time out of their own lives with their own shit going on to actually enquire as to how an ‘other’ is doing? – That’s pretty basic to me, that’s my first thought if someone enters my head.. Is that not.. normal?
“At the risk of feeling dumb, check in. It’s not worth the risk of losing a friend.”
– At the risk of feeling dumb.. check in. Well it’s all there in that really isn’t it? It’s not worth the risk of losing a friend.. I’ve spent considerable time over the years cultivating a close-knit group of people who I would consider my closest friends. I want to check in and see how these people who are special to me are doing.. It is my hope that they would want to do the same for me. I am going to check in every once in a while, and I am going to take the risk of feeling dumb, because I don’t want to lose any of my friends. They are too precious to me.
“I don’t want anyone, know me or not, See me at my lowest, you don’t have to drop, Don’t have to drop by, nothing you can do this time.
I don’t want anyone, know me or not, See me at my lowest, you don’t have to drop, Anything for me.
Just keep your plans, I hope that you never have to drop…”– Its never been my wish for any of my friends to see me at my lowest points. These are often and frequent, but they are not all the time. I don’t want anyone to drop anything for me, to check in on me. I don’t want anyone to drop anything for me. I just want my friends to know that if there was ever a need for it, I would drop my plans to check in on them.
Friendships are important to me. They are the bones of life. Without friendships, without the people I care about, there really is very little point in experiencing anything.
I’ve never liked the ‘best friend’ type label for friends because in my twisted mind, someone has to reciprocate in order to be considered ‘best friends’, and I am sorry world, but I am just not that lucky. I like ‘closest friends’. It better suits what these people are to me and the types of relationships I am lucky enough to be in with them. People should choose their own friends and if someone is kind enough to consider me their ‘best friend’ then that’s wonderful. – I don’t know why they would, but it’s wonderful all the same.
I think it’s safe to say that we all have a group of friend types. People with whom we are associated. People may refer to these as friends, mates, colleagues, acquaintances etc and so on. I would say that as of now, December 2024 I have my closest friends, these are friends who know the most about me, are most responsive to… my ideologies and.. most importantly, understand and accept me for who I am. I cannot put into words how much these people mean to me. These are the folks with whom frankly.. I might not be around anymore. These people have been.. life-changing for me. I am of course not going to mention names or identities. But, I hope past hope that you.. all.. You all know who you are.
